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Nikki Humphrey (01:06)
Wow wow wow wow wow.
Hope Mangiafico (01:08)
wanted to keep talking after your encouragement because was so good at the end. was like, no hope, save it. Because it's like I had just gotten started at minute 40. I mean, like at the end of the day, I was like trying to force my notes more or less. And then all of sudden it was like just started kicking in at about minute 40 of the episode.
And let me tell you, Nikki, in your encouragement at the end, would you use terms that we were throwing around the whole episode, which is so cool. You said something in the very beginning of it, it like you were not meant to carry other people's emotions. And all of sudden I got like a ding, ding, ding. People that are known as empaths are often peacekeepers. And I've been known to be, like I'm sensitive to environments.
Nikki Humphrey (01:53)
Yes,
same. That was such a good revelation. Wow.
Hope Mangiafico (01:59)
Yeah, I wrote it down because I was about to add it to the end. Like, no, don't do it. And I, when I think about the conversations I've had with people that have challenging environments with people they'll walk in, they tend to be sensitive to people's feelings and emotions and the environment.
Nikki Humphrey (02:20)
That makes so much sense to me because I surprised myself on being empath, empath, empathetic. I'm empath because like what was like 10 years, eight years ago, like that was like something to hang your hat on. But that was keeping me stuck in bondage because I was carrying everybody's stuff all the time.
Hope Mangiafico (02:34)
Girl, I thought it was.
to compliment what you're saying, I mean it's been years where I kind of had the revelation of like, I'm sensitive to environments. And people would tell me like, hope you're taking on things. And I would be like, but that's my strength.
Nikki Humphrey (02:51)
you
Hope Mangiafico (02:58)
and they would try to be like, you're way down because you're absorbing X, Y, Z. Yeah, but that's how I'm wired.
Nikki Humphrey (03:06)
I just had this visual that God gave me as you were talking. So you know that pegboard thing when little kids have, it's like these pegs and you take the hammer and then you tap the peg into the, that's what I just imagined. Like you just taking on everybody's thing, but you're pounding yourself into the ground at the same time.
Hope Mangiafico (03:15)
⁓ yeah.
But here's the catch as Crazy as that sounds we did not know how to change Because you can't
Nikki Humphrey (03:33)
I thought that was
a good thing. Like this is how it feels.
Hope Mangiafico (03:37)
Bring on the doormat status. Will you give me a doormat for Christmas, please?
Well, here's the thing, like when I used to hear that people are doormats, I think about like they don't consider themselves the very traditional sense, but as you're speaking, even that concept of being a doormat is actually much larger than I even traditionally had thought. Being a doormat is absorbing everyone's emotions. You know, it's not just, I don't know, skipping dinner to care for someone else. Like, there's so much to that.
Nikki Humphrey (03:53)
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's taking care of everybody's emotion and neglecting your own at the same time.
Hope Mangiafico (04:19)
But see, I wouldn't even historically have thought that I was neglecting my own, but going back to the episode when you defined peacekeeper, it was your reasonings had to do with, your reasonings or your definition had to do with you neglecting yourself. So peacekeepers being empaths ultimately is neglecting. Like it's a full circle moment right here for me.
Nikki Humphrey (04:33)
Yes.
Yeah, me too.
Hope Mangiafico (04:43)
And empaths are technically a personality trait, which I think even science is showing now, personalities are developed. So you're not out of the womb as this person that absorbs it all up.
Nikki Humphrey (04:59)
I just had a revelation. Like I became an empath because I was trying to control the chaotic environment around me. So I got really good. And like kids who have PTSD, like I did, that you become real good at reading the room. Picking up on those like subtle body maneuver, twitches, like things. And you're like, here comes, here comes a peacekeeper to save the day.
Hope Mangiafico (05:15)
Exactly, therapists.
Exactly. And there's so many different therapists that I've come across that witnessed that for their clientele. they know how to read the room because it's how, again, going back to what I shared in the episode about the definition of trauma for each individual, it's someone wasn't there to protect you. So your self-protection, which we talk about all the time, protecting comfort, your comfort, your protection is reading the room.
Nikki Humphrey (05:48)
Yes.
Mm-hmm
Hope Mangiafico (05:57)
because who else is gonna do it for you?
Nikki Humphrey (06:00)
Yeah, yeah, I can still walk into a room and I'm just like taking all the information. But now how I deal with it is completely different than I used to.
Hope Mangiafico (06:00)
But that's trauma.
Yeah, understand.
And that's progress. That's the thing I was in that same conversation I referenced like four times in the previous episode. We talked about triggers and I was saying something along the lines of like, just because you're still triggered doesn't mean you're not healing. It is your response to the trigger. It can take forever it feels to like no longer have a trigger because your nervous system, your whole body. Okay, God, he's like being a peacekeeper is like a nervous system response.
⁓ Your whole body has been trained for however many years to do these things. So the trigger, yes, he can make it disappear overnight, but typically by his own grace, that process is extended so we become resilient, can persevere, develop these beautiful traits that we talk about all the time on the podcast.
But that is what I'm hearing. Peacekeeping is that automatic response, which is actually subconscious nervous system. It's been trained once. It's all it needs is one time to know it protected you. And you keep doing it.
Nikki Humphrey (07:16)
Yes.
Hope Mangiafico (07:21)
Full speed ahead.
And God's been talking to me a lot lately about the nervous system, which is odd that like it's just crossing my path now because I've been on this like whole body journey for so long. But it is such a powerful thing to learn. And as I'm thinking about it and all I've learned this year about it, and it's only really been this year that I've had a lot of light bulb moments with it. I love how he's bringing that to mind.
into the peacekeeping and peacemaker conversation because being a peacemaker without me realizing it settles my nervous system. Activates the parasympathetic, which is like a parachute and just, hmm, an easy fall. And you said being a peacekeeper is that anxiety state pushing through and that's your sympathetic, that fight or flight, which is why it feels like chaos.
Nikki Humphrey (08:05)
Yes.
Hmm?
Hope Mangiafico (08:24)
It's so good.
So I'm just ready to change the script in all my relationships.
Nikki Humphrey (08:33)
Yeah, yeah, I'm ready to keep working on this with God and everything that He's been this past few days just revealing to me and digging more into that.
Hope Mangiafico (08:48)
Yeah, I'm just, I'm excited. And I'm excited for anyone that had a chance to listen to the actual full episode and this because if their ears are listening, God's got something for them too for a major breakthrough in their relationships and in their internal state.
And boy, do we love a changed internal state. I do.
Nikki Humphrey (09:16)
Yes.
Amen.
Hope Mangiafico (09:19)
Amen.
Nikki Humphrey (09:22)
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