30 The Illusion of Self-Help: There is a Better Way

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Why self-help can’t heal your soul — choosing God’s help over striving for change.

In this episode, we get honest about something we’ve both wrestled with: the difference between self-help and God help.

Everywhere we turn, the world tells us to fix ourselves — to manifest peace, to raise our vibration, to “do the work.” But what happens when you’ve done all that and still feel empty? What if your heart is weary from trying to become your own healer?

That’s where this conversation begins.

We talk about what happens when self-help sneaks into our faith walk — when we start striving for spiritual growth instead of receiving God’s grace. We unpack the subtle ways self-reliance disguises itself as progress, and how true transformation only happens when we surrender to His Spirit, not our self-improvement plans.

In this episode, we dive into:

How self-help promises healing but leaves us exhausted

Recognizing when “working on yourself” has become self-worship

Why surrender is not giving up — it’s giving God permission

How the Holy Spirit does what no mindset shift ever could

Learning to let God be your Helper, not your backup plan

The peace that comes when we stop trying to earn growth and just rest in His love

Maybe you’ve been reading the devotionals, listening to podcasts, journaling your prayers, and still feel like you’re falling short. Maybe you’re tired of “doing all the right things” but not feeling the breakthrough. Friend — that’s the point. You were never meant to carry what only God can heal.

This episode is for the woman who:

Loves Jesus but feels burnt out from trying to be “enough”

Longs for real transformation that lasts

Wants to exchange striving for surrender

Desires peace that doesn’t depend on performance

If you’ve been walking through a season of trying harder — and you’re ready to let go and let God — this conversation will meet you right where you are.